Falling for the wrong guy? Ask yourself: Is he the wrong guy for me?
(Dating Mr. Wrong)
1. He only make plans at the last minute.
Some men like to keep their options open. They have several choices available and don’t want to commit to a date too soon in the event that something better might come along. If you find yourself frequently waiting on his call, then this may be sign to move on.
2. He’s not taking an active role in becoming part of your world.
If a man is serious about you, he will usually make the effort to get to know the people who are important to you and become more immersed into your life.
Whether it’s your friends or family, he will want it to be known that he is your man and he will usually try his best to make a good impression. If he doesn’t care about that, it is a warning signal that he’s not he right guy for you.
3. He doesn’t go to events that are important to you.
Once in awhile if he has a good excuse or is actually sick, that is of course, understandable. If you see a pattern, however, it may be time to call it quits.
Assuming you are not overly demanding, something that is important to you should be important to him. If it is not, then it might be a sign that either he is not that into you, he prefers his friends to you, or he is simply too self-centered to take time away from his life for you. Either way, pay attention to the signs and decide if you feel you are worthy of more.
4. He stays in very close contact with his single friends.
If after dating for a while, your man is still going out with his single friends doing things together as single guys, you can be fairly certain he is not going to give up the single life. If it seems like he continues to get close to you, but his friends are never far behind, this may be a warning sign.
Of course, you don’t want your guy to give up his friends entirely, but if they are the source of his free time and you are merely a backup, it may be a sign of trouble. Same goes if he insists that you spend most of your time together hanging out with his buddies.
The same is true if it seems like your man has a lot of single female friends that he likes to spend time with or even keeps in touch with them a bit too frequently.
5. Night time is the right time…all the time.
If he loves the nightlife and the nightlife loves him even after you have been dating for a while, this might just be his way of life. If this is your way of life, then you have just met your soulmate. However, historically, when couples first start dating they tend to go out a lot, stay out late, and dance the night away. Once you settle in, though, and get closer in the relationship, the pendulum swings to more quiet nights at home and romantic dinners.
If this is the time when you were hoping the pendulum would swing, but it hasn’t, then it could be a warning sign. Don’t ask or expect him to change if that is who he is and what makes him happy. Accept the fact that you may want different things and it may be time to send this one back and explore the other “fish in the sea”.
6. You never see him more than once a week (sometimes twice), even after you have been dating several months.
Is he really super busy or are you play toy number 7?
Don’t be naive and think he is sitting home alone 6 nights of the week. If this is acceptable to you, then by all means enjoy your time together when it happens. But if not, deem it a warning sign.
7. Your friends tell you you’ve changed.
If your friends tell you that you’ve changed since your new relationship, that is a huge warning sign. If you feel like you’re now watching how you act or what you say based on your partner, this is not good at all. And it’s a big warning sign if you don’t feel relaxed around him even after dating for a while.
Being who you truly are is essential to a healthy relationship.